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How to Overcome your Struggles with Meditation: 10 Steps For Lasting Change!

How to Overcome your Struggles with Meditation: 10 Steps For Lasting Change!

Everyone struggles to meditate at some point during the process. Meditation can seem deceptively simple, therefore frustration kicks in for many of us when we discover we can’t quite master it straight away. Remember, it’s called practice for a reason, it does take time and discipline before it starts to feel natural!

In my own journey with meditation, I had occasions where I wanted to tear my hair out. Intense feelings of irritation and anger would overwhelm me as my busy thoughts refused to go away. I would tune into annoying outside sounds that I couldn’t avoid and want to give up!

I want to save you from the same process of self-doubt and chronic feelings of failure so you don’t turn meditation into a complicated inner battle or a chore to tick off the list.

I’ve created a 10-step guide to help you address some of the common reasons meditation can feel like an uphill struggle. This list will help you breakthrough the barriers to achieving a simple and gratifying meditation practice, allowing you to see you are not alone.

1.Why do You Want to Learn Quieting the Mind?

We are more compelled to do things if we feel inspired, rather than when we feel obliged.
It’s good to remember why you were drawn to the idea of meditation. I found that reading many different books on the topic helped me to keep on track. Knowing that others had experienced such transformative results, motivated me to continue. Ultimately when you are enjoying your practice you will wake up excited to meditate. Until that day, feed your inspiration as best you can.

2. What are your Expectations?

It helps to put some thought into what your expectations from the practice are. Are you hoping to become calmer? More confident? More productive? It’s also beneficial to think of how your meditation may affect others in your life.

3.You must make time.

The reality is we all lead very busy lives and it’s sensible to carve out a specific time to meditate. When you first awake is usually the best time to practice. You haven’t begun a day of distractions. Your thoughts are still in a more relaxed state. The aim is to treat meditation a bit like taking your vitamins, until it becomes a seamless part of your everyday routine.

4.There is connection in shared experiences.

It can be easier to meditate in a group for you and experience the benefits and insights of a shared practice. Instructors are used to students falling asleep in the class, there is no pressure. Others can talk about the challenges they are having and it can help you to feel a sense of joint dedication. If that's not your thing then, consider at least discussing your process with friends who are also starting to meditate. Meditation does not have to be some mysterious, unattainable thing and the more you open up about your process with others the easier it can become.

5. Find your Technique

If you are still exploring different methods of meditation, it can make things harder. It’s a good idea to experiment with various forms and styles but try to choose one that resonates with you and stick to it for a period of time. It’s important to start small and build a practice gradually.

6. Are you Obsessing on Intruding Thoughts?

This is the big one for most people. If you are waiting for some perfect state of mind to occur before you can meditate, that is like saying you can’t possibly meditate unless you have an empty room filled only with expensive candles and crystals. Perfection is not the aim. A common misconception is that we must stop or get rid of thoughts to be able to meditate. I have found it is much easier to consider that the desired state of being already exists in each of us, we simply have to allow it to surface. Instead of a focus on eliminating thoughts, focus instead on allowing in a calmer, quieter sense of self, the one that is there at all times just waiting to rise up.

7. If you Skeptical of Meditation, Keep Doing Your Research

Even just a tiny bit? You are embracing meditation, there must be some part of you that believes in results. It can help to consolidate your belief by researching some of the many articles, books and blogs that address the scientific proof of meditation as a beneficial practice. If you are armed with knowledge and understand that meditation actually alters brain matter, reduces anxiety and stress, promotes positive thinking, body image, confidence and improves brain cognition, you may cultivate a little extra excitement towards your daily practice.

8. Are you making a mountain out of a molehill?

Sometimes we create problems out of nothing, just to make sense of why we are finding something challenging. Do you find yourself criticizing your efforts? Does it feel like your mind is brimming with thoughts that you cannot possible control? Are you filled with a strong desire to stand up and scream instead of meditating? At the beginning it’s very common to become frustrated at how intensely agitated our minds suddenly become when sitting still. When you realize that this part of the process, and in fact if you can allow all of that negative self-talk to just be there in the background, you will find it starts to dissipate. Let go of the idea of there being a problem and see it as part of the learning experience.

9. You will get distracted

The reason why the simplicity of meditation is misleading is that it does actually take some kind of self control to nail it. If you allow yourself to daydream the entire session, you will end up just half-heartedly meditating. It helps to gently remind yourself that some effort is required to keep your mind focused on your breath, or mantra or whatever technique you are using. Be gentle with yourself, but also be realistic. It’s not going to happen without some intention and desire to focus 100% on the practice. You will get distracted, the key lies in calmly bringing your attention back again and again without self-criticism.

10. Open mind to give a new approach a chance.

This is the most crucial point to bear in mind, and especially integral to committing to a practice. I began my own journey because I felt utterly compelled to try something new. I had hit rock bottom in my life and I was basically desperate for anything that would help me make changes. Combined with an enthusiasm and open mind to give a new approach a chance, you will observe incredible transformative changes occur in your life. As you solidify your practice you will see the wonderful effects in your experience and so each feeds the other making meditation an essential tool for a positive life.

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  1. When you're meditating, think of people from your past. Visualize them laughing. You are a joke to them. A psychotic joke. Turn the focal point of your minds energy on the laughter. Become one with the sound of laughter ha ha ha ha haha. Picture them pointing and laughing. They share this with their friends and their friends laugh. So much to laugh at! Haha is that an owl? wtf. Where do you think she got these illustrations? The writing ... quintessential bernadette. ha hahah hahah. Let your attention turn to the muscles in your stomach, and imagine them being sore from laughter. OM


★ I have explored practical methods to achieve this drawing on my fascination with the way science and spirituality interrelate to create a new way of approaching life!